After a time most relationships become stale. But, with these 5 tips, you can put the monotony aside and bring back the lost romance in your relationship.
Most relationships start with a bang and slow to a fizzle over months and even years of excitement. But, how does something so amazing become lost, cumbersome and mundane? Much of it has to do with the fact that you and your partner know so much about each other that the surprise and excitement seem to be over. You’ve found yourself in a monotonous world with unsurprising outcomes day after day. But, does your relationship need to go stale? Here are a few pointers to bring back the lost romance into your relationship.
Admit that the romance is dwindling
If someone were to come up to you and ask how your relationship was going would you be eager to say, “the romance is dead?” For most people, the answer is probably no. One of the reasons why people won’t cop up to the idea that romance is dead is because they feel that those thoughts may preclude the end of a relationship. But, that’s not true at all. In fact, admitting the fact that your romance has fallen by the wayside is a critical step to rekindling the spark that once kept your life exciting.
If you feel that the romance has left your relationship to have a talk with your partner. Sit down and put distractions aside. That means no television, phones, or devices. Let your partner know how you are feeling and better yet, have a couple of interesting ideas to get the romantic mood back again. Like any other concerns in life, admitting that you need to focus more on romance is essential to improving.
Get back to the dating scene…with your partner
When we say get back to the dating scene that doesn’t mean sneaking off, cheating, or even introducing a third person into the bed (though sometimes that does help). What we mean is that when couples are in a relationship, their nightlife is often put aside over the years and relegated to take out food and a few hours of TV in the evening after work. One way to bring the romance back is to start going on dates with your partner again. A date can be as simple as going out to the movies, though better yet, you can head to a local hot spot filled with music, drinks, and happy people.
Monotony is often the biggest hardship to face in a relationship. While in one way it is comforting, on the other side romance (and life) is often more fun when you don’t know what is going to happen. You’d be amazed at how just meeting a few new friends or simply changing up the everyday norm will bring excitement and sexiness back to your life.
Cuddle up more often
Have you found that when you and your partner watch television, you sit on the opposite end of the couch? Maybe, you don’t even sit on the same piece of furniture. And in bed, you each have your own side, perfectly identified by the do-not-cross invisible line. Now think back to when you first met and the unlikelihood that the two of you weren’t draped together in a game of Twister wherever you sat, slept or stood. While you don’t need to go full-on high school PDA, cuddling up is a great way to fulfill the much-needed human affection of touch.
Touch is actually attributed to calm, comfort, security, and it is even recommended by doctors to ease stress, anxiety, and depression. Cuddling up to your partner signals that, yes, I still am in love with you. Not sure if it will work? Try it, and you might be surprised how welcoming your partner and relationship are to the feeling of a warm embrace.
Try sexting
Does the thought of sexting make you giggle, feel naughty, or make you curious? What about if you and your partner livened up your sexual experience with an online chat with a stranger? Online sex talk and sexting with your partner during the day are a safe way to experience something new as well as build arousal in your relationship. This is one area of your life, that when you thought you knew everything about your partner, you may have been wrong.
Sexting with your partner whether you sext to each other, or together with an online sexting stranger, helps to introduce some of the curious magic that you had when you were younger, eager, and first starting out your relationship. One way to start is to spend a night in bed with your smartphone or computer engaging in online sex chat. Trust us, you’ll laugh, you’ll become more affectionate, and likely you’ll have one of the best nights you’ve had in a long time.
Introduce “new” into your lives
Bringing romance back into your relationship doesn’t mean that you need to have sex, or even flirt. Sometimes bringing sexy back means that you and your partner just need to do new things together. Have you always wanted to learn how to paint or do ceramics? Do you love to travel, but the two of you never actually do it? Bringing something new into your lives will also help the two of you explore thoughts, feelings, desires, and dreams that you may have never shared with each other. If you do know those things about each other, then maybe the romance can be rekindled by you and your partner being the person who helps to make those desires a reality.
Bringing sexy back to the beginning
Bringing the romance back to your relationship isn’t as hard as you may think. Even if it’s been years since you were intimate or had that special feeling in your stomach, romance is still there. To bring romance back into your relationship it is important to acknowledge that your romance is deflated. That means the two of you need to talk about it. After that, it is important to break the monotony of life by getting back out there and dating each other again, cuddle up to show your partner that you still love each other, and introduce new and fresh ways to enliven the romance within you. You’ll be surprised how quickly that little ember turns into a blazing fire of affection.
